Dishing out constructive criticism and avoiding destructive criticism
Dishing out constructive criticism as opposed to destructive criticism
Most people hate being criticesed and very few take criticism very well. Sometimes people think they are giving constructive criticism whereas to the person being criticised, it comes out as nothing but destructive and not well-meaning.
Dishing out constructive criticism: how to tips
When you criticise constructively or criticise in a constructive (building) manner, there are a few points you need to remember:
1. Avoid being negative
2. Remember to highlight strengths first, before you could bring out the not so good points - praise the person for their positive traits
3. Do not critic the person, but do critic the bahaviour or action and do admit to not being clean yourself
4. Your voice and body language says it all - constructive criticism and destructive kind will both reflect in your voice, and actions
5. Afford the person an opportunity to speak, and finish on a warm note
Dishing out criticism constructively is done in private, with great respect
When you criticise in a constructive way,, you do it in private and only with the relevant person. Do not spread gossip about them or their negative behaviour/trait or action.
The bottom line is: praise and compliment in public, but only criticise in private. It's all about respect, creating awareness, alerting someone to something that would help/assist them and 'building' character at the same time.
MOST PEOPLE HAVE NO DIFFICULTY HANDLING CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM BUT NO CLUE HOW TO HANDLE PRAISE
Your voice says it all when dishing out constructive criticism
Your body language will tell if the criticism is negative/destructive in nature
Do your own self analysis
Do not destroy another's self esteem with criticism